Unlocking Your Potential: How to Level Up

if you’re anything like me, i’m constantly wondering ‘what is my limit?” or if i have any type of limitations in my life. this can be something physical, mental, spiritual, whatever. i constantly push myself past my previous boundaries, which i did not think was possible to surpass, and i’m always happy with the result. in effect, my confidence grows making me want to take on the next ‘limit’ and thus becoming a beautiful, everlasting cycle of growth.

pushing your limits is not only a great ‘character building’ initiative but also a great way to get the most out of life. you can’t get the most without exceeding boundaries (i don’t mean trespassing or any of that illegal stuff). how would you know what you’re capable of if you haven’t ‘tested the waters’? growing in this sense puts you in a better position for anything life throws at you and also can make you a great asset others would love to have around.

here’s a few concepts on crushing any limit and challenging the status quo..

Question Everything

just like when you were a toddler, ask away.

question every single thing. not good in social situations? Google ‘how to be more charismatic’. don’t know how to be in the moment? go to Barnes and Noble and find a book on mindfulness. wanna learn how to dance? YouTube it. for all your questions and concerns, an answer already exists. all you have to do is search for it. don’t run away from your issues or occupy yourself with insignificant tasks. question your discomfort and tackle it head on.

Mind ya business

stop worrying about others. i’ve mentioned this before and i really mean it. this is a complete waste of energy and mental capacity. you’ll never be able to truly, genuinely realize what you want for yourself if you keep thinking with everyone in mind. your judgement will come second to everyone else’s if you can’t think independently. whenever you find yourself in a situation where you are evaluating something such as how you ‘feel’, ask yourself: do i truly feel this way or do i feel this way because i don’t want to be misjudged or seen as an outcast? as long as your decision makes you feel happy and doesn’t hurt or negatively impact anyone, including yourself, nothing else should matter.

Goals

visualize your ‘ideal’ self or who you want to become, as of right now. not who you wanted to be (although this info could help) or who you might want to be but who you aspire to become as of this present moment. take that thought and materialize it. write it down, draw it out, say it loud. whatever medium of your choosing. put the energy out there and set it in motion. this image or idea of you can change (and most likely will) and that’s 100,000,000% OK. life is dynamic and so are you. so embrace it.

Be Relentless

continue to hack at it. it won’t feel comfortable, ya know, to put yourself first and do things in pursuit of your potential and it will never be (blame ‘society’). you’ll always have to step out of your comfort zone in order to achieve growth. keep going and value your time more than anything else and use it wisely. also, learn how to say ‘no’ (believe me, this tip does WONDERS)

Keep your head up

don’t get discouraged. don’t stop believing.

This video gets me every time..

do i need to say more? it’s not always going to go your way. you’re probably going to look ‘stupid’ doing some of these new things. your expectations aren’t going to be met all the time. people (yes- even those closest to you) will doubt you and throw shade, negativity your way. this comes in many forms. fail….fail…fail…FAIL! ‘failing’ is just a stepping stone or a building block toward your potential. the most successful people in the history of human existence have ‘failed’ substantially more than they have even succeeded. these ‘failures’ are just signs from the universe telling us that we are on the right path. i put ‘fail’ in quotes because this is what we have been taught to be as negative. the word itself is worse than the actual event or experience attached to it. we were meant to ‘fail’ and in order to be the best we could possibly be, we need to keep failing. in failure we find success. so keep failing gracefully, with a smile.


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Getting out of your head

of all the obstacles we confront on a daily basis (inclement weather, insomnia, waking up to no notifications), the one which impacts us the most is ourselves. you could have all the money, time and energy in the world but if you’re stuck in your head it is as if nothing is right and the universe is plotting against you.

i, for one, have never claimed myself to be a ‘victim’ or someone who didn’t ‘deserve’ to be in an unfortunate situation. however, i did have this weird idea that ‘it shouldn’t be this way’ whenever things didn’t go my way. once i realized that i could not only take control of how i perceive a situation but also how i react to them, i got my first taste of freedom.

below you’ll find some guidance on how you can be liberated from the slavery you have placed upon yourself and live life on your own terms..

Awareness

rise and shine! wake up and open your eye. yes, eye- singular. the one that rests somewhere in the middle of your forehead, just above your eye brows (or ‘brow’ if you believe in unity)

get a good look for what ‘is’. acknowledge your current situation by using mindfulness to bring you back to the now then journal/write down all of it. be as objective as possible, as if a complete stranger were to evaluate it. knowing where you stand is a major key (Another one) in taking your first step (no pun intended) into reality.

Acceptance

take a look at your current state and all which you have acknowledged objectively. if you can change a given situation you dislike, do it. if you can’t, accept it- there’s nothing you can do so why waste your precious energy on resentment and unnecessary anxiety? utilize that energy for your own benefit- to put yourself in a better situation and to change that which you can.

Attention

pay attention! (it’s free)

use every bit of it to focus on what’s really important, on what’s going to help you progress. your attention is so crucial but yet is taken for granted. stay present in the moment and just be. to do this, take a deep breath when things start getting a bit crazy or try to mentally ‘feel your toes’ (literally). also, be mindful to all the information you are being fed- this ranges from watching tv and listening to music to reading and being on social media. what goes in, grows in.

Action

in order to keep that attention, make plans and take action. work on those areas which you struggled with before or on some positive things that will help you in pursuit of a goal or to better habits. not only will you achieve more, but you will also stray away from anything that’s toxic for your health.

unAssume? (yes- i just made that up)

it is what it is and how it should be. stop expecting anything from anyone or any situation. life is unpredictable so stop pretending you’re Miss Cleo.

release yourself and let go of any assumptions. when you don’t expect anything in any given situation, not only do you avoid disappointment (from lack of comparison) but you also become more open to infinite possibilities. although a pair of situations may be alike, no two experiences are ever the same. also, stop worrying about what others think. just like our thoughts can be random, theirs can too. so next time you’re worried someone thinks you’re an Ol’ Dirty Bastard, they might just be thinking about how many White Claws they drank last night.


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As I sit here..

disclaimer: this is me just running through my energy in motion

i live to strive towards something. that something which I call my purpose. I move only in one direction: forward. or so I think. i’m in pursuit of something. something inexistent, non-physical, indescribable. I know what it is but it is as if I’m chasing after a ghost which has never appeared.

everyday, i get closer and closer but yet further and further away. push and pull. progress and self-doubt. i know what im striving towards but yet i dont. like an unfamiliar family member. i know you but yet i dont.

i wish someone can let me know or guide me but it is only i who can truly provide a compass.

i have faith but yet i dont. the news doesnt help and facts only provide insurance for what ‘is’ but not about what hasn’t been.

it is only i who can create but i am afraid of destruction. how can i take risks with such at stake? good vs evil but who knows the difference? who is to judge?

i just wanna know but i know there is no definitive truth. let me live…

help! i’m stuck and i cant get out

that emotionally painful feeling you get when you no longer feel comfortable in your comfort zone (oh the irony). the moment you realize nothing’s going right and you’re not in the situation you want to be in. when all you can say to yourself is ‘this is not what it’s supposed to be like’. f*ck- i mean stuck! i know that feeling. it sucks but good news! it doesn’t have to be this way and yes, there’s a way out!

for me (as i expect for many of you as well) this feeling was realized thru my job. i was on auto-pilot: wake up, dread the day to come, go to work, drag myself thru the workday, come home, go to sleep (not really), then do it all again. the ‘Sunday blues’ got 1,000,000 x’s worse all while my mood was becoming more and more irritable. it was all good (again, not really) until shit really started to hit the fan at the office and there was A LOT of shit.

but this epic fecal atomic bomb didn’t just impact my work life, but also personally and in every other aspect of life as well. it had spread faster than a fat man’s chopsticks eating ramen (just as sloppy, too).

my first reaction was to, again, find comfort in this situation. i kept trying to find shortcuts or quick fixes to remediate my problems, looking for any way to solve my issues as fast and as painless as possible. but this wouldn’t suffice. i mean sure, there were certain conflicts i was able to resolve using this method but it was anything but permanent.

so i went out to search for my escape. just like my complications with sleep, i started with reading short articles relating to my struggles which lead me to doing further, more thorough research on the matter. reading books (to everyone’s surprise) and listening to podcasts. every free, waking moment i had was dedicated to ‘getting out’. no procrastination here. i mean, if you know you’re not in a good situation or at least the situation that you’d like to be in, would you be able to enjoy life? i couldn’t. so there was no other option.

thru my investigation, i stumbled across many resourceful, ingenious information which has helped me not only with taking that first step out but also every step after, going forward. using this insight, i’ve put together some general tips which could be utilized as a guide (or the kick in the a**) you’ve been looking for, to finally take control and take back your life. let the journey begin..

where am i?

look no further than here. right here, right now- that’s all that matters. your journey begins where you stand and the direction is forward. the past is not necessary in this step but it may be used as reference to understanding your habits and where your enjoyment (or lack there of) resides. think of everything in relation to now. anything else would result in dread or anxiety, not to mention a waste of time, since you can only take control of what’s in the present moment.

what’s the purpose?

the most common question i kept asking myself. contemplating this question itself always lead me to feeling even more stuck than before the thought. yes, you can set about a journey to finding your ‘purpose’ but there is no one purpose to strive towards. essentially, as long as you have the time, you can pursue many diverse options throughout your lifetime as we are not tied to any one thing or purpose. in effect, it’s not necessarily about finding a purpose but creating a purpose of your own. this comes from understanding your ‘self’ first and figuring out what really gets you out of bed in the morning. what’s your reason for being alive? what do you live for?

how do i get there?

this is the fun part where you take your ‘purpose’ and use it as a beacon or as the ‘light at the end of the tunnel’. that is your destination. but this destination should never be reached nor realized; only transcended. it is your guide thru life, making sense of everything you do along the way as you ask yourself before performing any act ‘will doing this bring me closer to reaching my destination/purpose’. you will soon think of your life as a map with your purpose being the destination and every act along the way a road or pathway on the way there. only then will you be able to evaluate everything you do as meaningful.

what’s wrong?

take this time to think about all that’s bothering you. why are these things such an issue? can anything be done to immediately ‘solve’ this problem? analyze anything conflicting with your peace of mind and ask yourself if you can do something about it. if you can’t then a change in perception is a must. you must learn to accept that which you cannot change and willing to change that which you cannot accept, if it can in fact be altered. once you figure that out, take action!

what’s right?

now think about the good times.

think about all the times you’re out playing basketball or when you’re singing your a** off to Frank Ocean’s Channel Orange or when you’re simply doing hot yoga (i’m definitely not talking about myself). how did you feel just doing these activities? and i’m not asking how it felt in the aftermath of it but while you were doing them. do you feel accomplished? do you feel refreshed as if you stepped out the fountain of youth? do you feel like you somehow grew in complexity and feel like you’ve obtained superpowers? pay attention and keep track of any activity which brings these feelings to light. be careful, however. some activities such as gambling and doing illicit drugs may result in the evoking of these emotions but only on a temporary level and with no real value to one’s self. in essence, analyze all the activities listed and judge them by whether or not any of these are harmful to anyone (physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually) including yourself, purge those activities from the list and keep the others for reference to understanding what kind of things provide enjoyment.

bringing it all together

now that you are aware of what you hate/love doing, where you’re going, what you need to do, how and when you need to do it (now), it’s all about taking action. acquiring knowledge is great and all but without acting on them, they are as good as an unwritten book. so now’s the time to write that story and fill that book (aka your life) to the point where there are no blank pages (aka no what if’s). everything is as it as and as it should be. go and start your journey. i’m excited to see you continue to fail and fail forward to the point where nothing stops you from the pursuit of your purpose(s). stuck is for schmucks.


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night night: sleep tips from a former [full-time] insomniac

so the beginning of this journey for me all began when i couldn’t do one of the only things we’re fundamentally programmed to do (*Spoiler Alert*: sleep). i just couldn’t do it. my sleep button was broken and i didn’t know how to fix it 😦 . i tried everything. i mean EVERYTHING. or at least i think i did. i tried melatonin, eating cherries, drinking chamomile tea; i even tried playing solitaire (why though?). nothing really worked. each individually might have helped me one day or more but none consistently worked nor provided that deep, quality sleep either, even when used in combination with each other.

yes, i did go to a sleep doctor. he suggested i document every night into a series of worksheets known as a ‘sleep log’. so i did. however, during this time i had taken up running at night and this seemed to be my ‘cure’. in essence, when i followed up with my doctor i came back with logs showing how i slept every night since last seeing him.

(so then why are you complaining about sleep?)

AHAH! you have asked the right question! well let me tell you a little story… i tore my meniscus- THE END! so no more long distance running for me. maybe i gave up the idea too soon but the soreness i experienced in that very knee after any type of endurance training was pretty intense and doing it every night didn’t sound like a good idea to me. so there- back to the program…

i probably should’ve went back to the sleep doctor but i was so discouraged that i just decided to keep trying to figure this thing out on my own.

i started using Flipboard and one of my main topics of interest, if not THE main topic, was sleep. any and every article that was sleep focused or related, it was read and saved (you should see my magazine). in saying that, i stumbled across a shitload of articles (and shit) that claimed to have the ‘answers’. Titles like ’10 Steps to a Perfect Night’s Sleep’ and ‘Scientifically backed ways to sleep in minutes!’ I ran with all of these and grouped together the most useful tips that should help anyone looking to get a great night’s rest tonight and moving forward, from the start of your day to the moment you crash.

so here they are..

stick to the program

wake up and go to sleep at the same time every day, including weekends. all week, month, and year long (yes, this includes vacations). if you choose to stay up a little later than normal on a given night, i wouldn’t go past 2 hours passed your routine bedtime. same concept applies for waking up. so no over sleeping you bums!

get out of bed

when you wake up in the morning, doesn’t it feel so relaxing to just stay in bed a few extra minutes (even hours) and dread the day to come? NO! get tf outta bed and start your day! take your finger off the snooze button and get up. staying in bed longer when not sleeping (or having sex) will impact your ability to sleep ‘on demand’ whenever you hit the bed at the end of a long day. plus, the longer you take, the harder it’ll be to get up. so move it!

exercise

no- i don’t mean going to the gym to take selfies and post it up on your Instagram Stories. i mean actually taking the time out, about an hour a day, to really work those muscles and release some steam. go ahead, go apeshit on a heavy bag or kick the crap outta that soccer ball for all i care- just be active.

stay away from sugar and caffeine

this is pretty much self explanatory and shouldn’t even be mentioned but there’s no such thing as ‘common sense’, so here you go. if you absolutely ‘need’ caffeine to keep you from being Irritable Irene, i’d suggest consuming it before 2pm. after that, you’re risking an all-nighter (guess you didn’t get enough of that in college huh?).

get you some good [vitamin] D

go outside and get yourself a good 10-30 min of sun light, with appropriate protection from the sun’s ultraviolet rays. you can also take vitamin D3 supplements if you can’t make it outside. so go on, put that UV condom on and flex that ‘summer bod’.

dinner is served

make sure your last meal is consumed no later than 2 hours before bedtime, same applies for drinks (yes, even water). this is especially true if you wanna keep that summer bod tight, Doug.

prep for tomorrow

before you start winding down to call it a night, get ready for tomorrow. you can do this by ironing your work clothes, meal prepping, whatever you can do to take tasks away and simplify your morning. it’s already difficult enough to get out of bed. don’t make it harder πŸ˜‰

Xbox [dis]Kinect

stay away from your cell, PS4, computer. like farrr awayyy. anything electronic that requires your attention- no. the blue light affect alone will impact your ability to go to sleep. so power down within 2 hours of sleepy time. pretend it has cooties or something. don’t even touch it.

clear the cache

the first step i make sure to take before i getting in bed is this one. get all that kaka out your head- whether it be from taking a walk, writing things down in a journal, reading or meditating, or all the above, NIKE (Just Do It)!

lights out

make sure your room is completely dark or as dark as possible (think Wesley Snipes in Blade). use blackout curtains, drapes, magic; whatever you have to do to so you are unable to see any type of light when you’re in bed. if you cant control your environment’s lighting, try using an eye mask.

no Dwight, this isn’t an eye mask

cool down

make sure your room, or wherever you sleep, is cooled down, not a sauna. a range from 62Β°-67Β° should do just fine. now, just lay back and chill πŸ™‚ .

live your life

this is a personal tip of my own and more general but a significant one, nonetheless, that deserves mentioning. following the tips above will definitely improve your ability to fall asleep as well as getting the best, quality sleep but these alone (or in combination) are not enough. ‘whatever helps you sleep at night’ is not just a phrase used by one person in response to another’s description of an idea or actionable activity which satisfies their perception of a given situation but it is also a truth. this truth touches the idea of you doing something or coming up with a ‘solution’ to resolve a conflict or some type of hurdle in your life. we all have issues to deal with and knowing this can be paralyzing, especially when no action is taken. so go ahead. target those problems and do ‘whatever helps you sleep at night’, cause there’s a good chance that’s what’s keeping you up to begin with.


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intro: it’s a me!

i don’t know how to write this… i don’t know what i’m doing… but that’s why i’m here, or at least what lead me here. a few months ago i was stressed out of my mind: demanding job, my first serious relationship, insomnia and no direction (not even One). i didn’t even know where to begin, just as i feel now about writing this blog. but i did. the journey was set forth.

my name is Emilio, by the way, and welcome to my blog. for those of you who are lost, welcome aboard this ship which never stops and is heading to anywhere, everywhere, and nowhere. our destination is a place of everlasting change, a voyage i never thought to take part in but is inevitable in this abstract process we call ‘life’.

who i was or thought i was was far from the truth. understanding this idea is what lead me to discovering the place of the ‘known’ (as opposed to the unknown). this was the land of familiarity, home of confidence, zone of the comfort. a place known for its complacency and conformity, where one thinks he is moving forward but is, in fact, standing still (and in some cases, moving backwards). this place which i was so accustomed to living in was where my ‘stuck-ness’ resided (no sh*t).

it was a small, narrow tunnel, or at least to me it seemed that way. i felt like i couldn’t breath and was in too deep- the ‘sunken place’. oddly, i had always been there (or should i say ‘here’) but it was getting darker and darker, i needed a way out, a ladder of some sort. so i climbed and elevated thru the literature which i seemed to condemn in my previous time of existence. but if there were ever a time to disregard the past, ‘the time is now my child‘ (*Ab-Soul voice*). there is no other ‘time’ or instance anyways, so f*ck it.

this elevation did not come without effort, however. countless hours and research has been, and continue to be, done on the climb up and out. not only did this newly accrued knowledge guide me thru but has also kept me afloat from falling back in. ‘I know that I know nothing’ as Plato says it best. this saying alone is the fundamental idea which pushes me to explore the unknown and continue to grow and learn, which is the only way out and to stay out.

‘Sunken Place’ from Get Out (2017)

so this is where i’m at now: continuing these positive habits which have freed me from my own tyranny which i placed upon myself, thru the influence of others (where my influencers at?). i still don’t have it mapped out, yet, but i do know what is not the way, which is where i have gone before, the past. persistence and consistence are the keys to obtaining this order of consciousness and avoiding that dreadful past.

the mission of this blog is to help those just as lost as i was (or still am). for those that want to reach and realEYES their potential. for those that want to escape the shackles society has placed on us and want to live freely among ourselves. for those that just want to be aware and become more knowledgeable of our very existence. to unlearn the ‘miseducation’ we’ve been stressed to integrate into our lives and, in essence, to live. and to just live a f*cking great life while improving the lives of others.

thru my ‘failures’ (dique ‘failures‘) and my random studies and reading, i will be passing on some knowledge to thou, for free.99. a piece of my mind for your attention, fair trade right? it’ll be terribly fun. just be here now and forever. and i don’t mean specifically this site, but it would be dope if you stick around.