of all the obstacles we confront on a daily basis (inclement weather, insomnia, waking up to no notifications), the one which impacts us the most is ourselves. you could have all the money, time and energy in the world but if you’re stuck in your head it is as if nothing is right and the universe is plotting against you.
i, for one, have never claimed myself to be a ‘victim’ or someone who didn’t ‘deserve’ to be in an unfortunate situation. however, i did have this weird idea that ‘it shouldn’t be this way’ whenever things didn’t go my way. once i realized that i could not only take control of how i perceive a situation but also how i react to them, i got my first taste of freedom.
below you’ll find some guidance on how you can be liberated from the slavery you have placed upon yourself and live life on your own terms..
rise and shine! wake up and open your eye. yes, eye- singular. the one that rests somewhere in the middle of your forehead, just above your eye brows (or ‘brow’ if you believe in unity)
get a good look for what ‘is’. acknowledge your current situation by using mindfulness to bring you back to the now then journal/write down all of it. be as objective as possible, as if a complete stranger were to evaluate it. knowing where you stand is a major key (Another one) in taking your first step (no pun intended) into reality.
take a look at your current state and all which you have acknowledged objectively. if you can change a given situation you dislike, do it. if you can’t, accept it- there’s nothing you can do so why waste your precious energy on resentment and unnecessary anxiety? utilize that energy for your own benefit- to put yourself in a better situation and to change that which you can.
pay attention! (it’s free)
use every bit of it to focus on what’s really important, on what’s going to help you progress. your attention is so crucial but yet is taken for granted. stay present in the moment and just be. to do this, take a deep breath when things start getting a bit crazy or try to mentally ‘feel your toes’ (literally). also, be mindful to all the information you are being fed- this ranges from watching tv and listening to music to reading and being on social media. what goes in, grows in.
in order to keep that attention, make plans and take action. work on those areas which you struggled with before or on some positive things that will help you in pursuit of a goal or to better habits. not only will you achieve more, but you will also stray away from anything that’s toxic for your health.
unAssume? (yes- i just made that up)
it is what it is and how it should be. stop expecting anything from anyone or any situation. life is unpredictable so stop pretending you’re Miss Cleo.
release yourself and let go of any assumptions. when you don’t expect anything in any given situation, not only do you avoid disappointment (from lack of comparison) but you also become more open to infinite possibilities. although a pair of situations may be alike, no two experiences are ever the same. also, stop worrying about what others think. just like our thoughts can be random, theirs can too. so next time you’re worried someone thinks you’re an Ol’ Dirty Bastard, they might just be thinking about how many White Claws they drank last night.
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